Featured Story// The pretty girl in the room…

A great article from elle.com about the girls who are charming and intriguing because they’re raw, real and full of sex appeal; Cinderella before the glass slipper so to speak.  Click here for the whole read, it’s lovely knowing that there are men out there who appreciate a girl who enjoys life and doesn’t feel the need to conform to ideals of ‘pretty’.

They tend to go out on the town in pairs, I’ve noticed: the conventionally pretty one, all dolled up and shining, and her average-looking friend, who’s barely had time to do her hair. The pretty one, I have a hunch, is generally the instigator. With the plainer one by her side, she thinks she’ll look even more dazzling than usual. And the plainer one goes along with the idea because she wants to bask in her friend’s glow—or maybe because she just doesn’t get out much. I don’t know. I do know, however, that when I spot them and manage to push in beside them at the bar, I often feel sorry for the pretty one.

Because she’s about to learn she’s not the pretty one.

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Tales of a Thin Girl

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The aim of this site is to stop body shame. A lot of people don’t really know what that is, despite the fact that they probably participate in the very action every day. It’s not to say you’re a bad person, it’s simply that we have been conditioned in this way.

Body shaming is making someone feel bad about their body, typically out of ones own insecurities. This doesn’t necessarily mean that person is big or overweight.  A lot of the time, particularly nowadays as a result of the tabloid media’s (contradictory) backlash on ‘skinny’, small framed girls suffer as well. Ten years ago, women were angered that media didn’t diversify the types of women used in commercials, magazines and TV shows for example, today, a woman larger than a size 10 (US 6) can’t be featured in an ad without the words ‘real women have curves’ being blasted all over the front.  What do you think that now says to the girls who aren’t naturally blessed with ample breast, a cinched waist and a bodacious behind? It says you’re not sexy and you’re not a real women. Diversification is still not reached, and the sad fact is, it probably never will be.

To stop body shaming, we have to start by doing two things. The first is to start with ourselves, once we work on being self-aware and confident in who we are, only then can we challenge feelings of inadequacy and intimidation in the face of others. And two, we must stop analysing each other, stop comparing, stop challenging and start to be kind, friendly and appreciate the good qualities in everyone. Hopefully this blog can help achieve these things.